ULF BRANDIN ..........................................................Engelska

Oxievångsvägen 360 .......................................................................Datum

238 39 OXIE ...............................................................1997-04-07

 

The Fatherhood today

 

Is not the same as it was in the thirties. With the unemployment and half time work we have more time for the children today. But in some cases with both parents working full time it’s most same situation as in those days.

Today in a divorce it is not so unusual with the father taking the responsibility of the children and in many family’s the father stays home when the mother works.

This "revolution" started in the seventies when they created the expression "soft dads" and the women’s lib was strong. Now it’s not a shame for the for the father to be home with the children. But that took almost twenty year to be accepted and one depression before it flourished in the nineties.

I think that is nice when the father spend more time home with the children and that they use at least the month. I would prefer to see that they split the children’s free time.

I live alone with my boy Patrick and we have good and bad times together. It isn’t always so easy to raise a child and I keep learning new things everyday. I think it’s important to teach the child to help me with primary house work.. One day he going to fly away and start his own life and if his not prepared he will get into difficulties like how to manage to clean, wash, cook. and so on

So I always think he could help me with some small things like when I vacuum clean I ask him for example to move the shoes in the hall so I can clean the floor and I always say to him that he is clever after he has helped me.

On the evening when he goes to bed I almost always read a fairy-tale for him and think that we have it quite all right.

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